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Too Late To MournToo Late To Mourn depicts the extraordinary life of an Afghani medical doctor who lived in France as a war refugee, achieved the highest education and was recognized as one of the world most outstanding scientists in the field of basic medical research in the early 60’s. Despite his academic and career achievements, his personal struggles were a reflection of the changing times, in search of happiness.

Belonging to a remaining, tiny remnant of Buddhist culture in Afghanistan, Abdulai progressively assimilated to the Western culture and converted himself to Catholicism. Not only was this rare in the Afghani culture, it would carry on as a part of his legacy long after his time on Earth.

The modern feminist movement was in full uprising during the time of his first marriage, spurring high divorce rates in a quest for female independence. His traumatic divorce from the Swedish nurse he had wedded, left him as a single parent to their two young sons. Though sparked by her infidelity, losing custody of the children is something she would never forgive.

He provided the most expensive and the best education for his children that one could get in France at the time. He had a prolific medical teaching and research combined with a busy medical practice during the years preceding the divorce, after which he picked up the broken pieces and started all over again a new life. Abdulai was totally dedicated to the care of his two sons, which included maintaining a busy office practice while being burdened by the house chores without the help of a mother figure.  Despite the struggle, he gave all for his sons. That was, until they were coerced by their biological mother to become estranged and distanced from their father, with the assumption of financial reward.

His sons, for reasons quite clear to psychologists and unacceptable to the society at large, steadfastly refused to tell their father why they did not want to have anything to do with him. Succumbed to his grievance, he and his second beloved wife slowly gave up hope to reconnect with their only granddaughter who loved her grandpa and her step grandma during her entire childhood until she was nine years old when her parents forbade her to have further contact with the old couple. Abdulai died of Leukemia before he could ever see her or his sons again.

The Afghani doctor’s story does not end there. Once the granddaughter entered college, she shared with her roommate the story of estrangement between the old couple and her parents. During her freshman year she reconnected with her lonely surviving step grandmother and read the entire memoir her grandfather left behind.

Troubled by social injustice, wars between countries, disintegration of the family unit and especially by the unfair disconnection her parents had with her grandfather and his wife, she decided to take up study to become a medical doctor dedicated to the care of the underprivileged in developing countries. A decade later, the granddaughter became a Catholic nun and started her medical practice serving those less fortunate. In following the chosen religion and profession of her grandfather, she would proudly carry on a legacy that was nearly lost, sharing it with generations to come.